I have a strange obsession with death. And I think about it quite frequently. Now before you go call the suicide hot line for me, that's not what I mean. I don't really think about myself dying, just other people. Ha! I'm pretty sure this slight obsession with death comes from the fact that it is a fear of mine but also something I'm a little intrigued by.
I kind of fear losing someone close to me. I've never experienced it before so it's really just fear of the unknown. I don't want to lose someone, but at the same time it seems inevitable. As my cold-hearted perinatologist* once said to me, "Everyone has to die some time." {She wasn't really cold-hearted, just brutally honest.}
But when she said that, it got me thinking...and basically she is absolutely right. Death, as I like to think of it, is a part of life. It's like life's greatest adventure. I know that sounds very cliche. But that is way I like to think about it. I've never really been afraid of dying, probably because I'm still young. Really, when was the last time I've been that close anyway? Except for all those times driving on the freeway in LA. I'd like to think that if I didn't wake up tomorrow morning. It would be like, "Oh well, I kicked the bucket. Only thing I've ever been early for." Probably not for the ones left behind though.
My mom is a nurse so she's dealt with death before. She would sometimes say that if we really believe in life after death, we are really only being sad for ourselves when someone dies. In her eyes, it is sad to loose someone but because they've taken the next step we should celebrate. It sounds true in theory but in practice I think it would be much harder and more complex than that.
So what got me thinking about death this time? I came across this article
HERE. Read it. I found it to be very insightful and really beautiful. I particularly like that it is from someone who does not profess any religious beliefs about death. Yet it made me think of death as a sacred experience. I mean, the way she describes her last moments with her dad, is there not something ineffable about that?
One of the things I truly believe in my religion is that we existed in a spiritual form before birth. I guess it points to our bodies as shell, meant to house our spirits, that it is your spirit that keeps living after your shell expires and it does so because it is eternal and divine in nature. Things I can't explain, but that resonate with me for some reason. So I loved when Claire, from the article above, said after her experiences with loss:
"I know that now I believe we are all part of one another. That's it's not that we will meet again, but that we have already met before."
Sometimes I think about people who are close to death. Last week at church I saw this couple who must be about 90. I mean, they're OLD. And in the pew before them was a little boy, not more than 1, a baby really. He was standing on the pew facing the older couple. And I wondered, what is it like to be so near the end of your life and see someone so near the beginning? Hopefully, I'll get to find out. And hopefully this will be me playing Just Dance II on the Wii.

*PS "perinatologist" is code for high-risk pregnancy doc.